I used to feel extremely jealous.  Other people had mentors who did everything for them, or who were at least more nurturing.  Carol, however, was a soccermom on speed.  She worked, although not that much, partied with other moms, went to sporting events, and even had time for yoga classes.  Every time it seemed I needed to be mentored she was on her way to yoga or daycare.  The few times that she was around someone else monopolized her attention.  But one day I realized that because she didn’t babysit me, I was forced successfully to learn on my own.